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20      Bule 1

  After having so many bule and non-bule friends, it is only normal to get to know all of them.

Regardless of your location, there is a possibility to meet a bule. Whether at work, if you work for a foreign company or foreign-related company, for instance; Whether at a tourist resort, such as Bali; Whether in school, with English speaking classes, of course. They are just about anywhere.

If I were to give a reason why a write-up on bule, it would simply because I am not a bule and sometimes I write about others.

What is the one thing that separates the definitions of a bule and non-bule? The culture. The culture that brings up a bule, the culture that brings up a non-bule.

For instance, with an Eastern background, I am not supposed to talk back to my parents whether they are wrong or right. I am not supposed to mention any vulgar words to anyone. I have to greet my older relatives. I am expected to be submissive and feminine. I am supposed to take my religion seriously.

Meanwhile, being of a Westerner, my friend can talk back to his parents and speak up his mind. When they are wrong, they will admit it. He can swear in front of his parents without hearing their complaints afterward. Nobody makes him greet anyone if he does not feel like it. He is expected to be active and agressive. He can choose whatever beliefs he wants to.

One thing I know our differences vary not because of our genders per se, but because of our cultures. We both might be of Asian descents but with different backgrounds. He once called himself a bule because of his way of thinking; his Western mindset.

Then again, I was comparing an Eastern Asian and a Western Asian.

Back to the discussion on bule, when dealing with them, no nonsense is your best bet. Meanwhile, with the non-bule, chances are, there is more time spent on going around a circle instead of going straight to the point.

If you do not feel like hanging out with your bule friends, they do not need to hear any reasons why. If they do not like you, they will tell you in your face. If they think you are wrong, they will let you know and explain why.

Contrary to non-bule friends, if you do not feel like going out with them, they question you why?; is it because they did something wrong? If they do not like you, they will slowly neglect you without approaching you first. If they think you are wrong, they will say that you have the right to stand for your own words.

By comparing the two, it does not necessarily mean that it is a dead-right theory of their characteristics. There are plenty bules who think like typical non-bules, vice-versa. After all, we can be culturally different yet unique individuals — regardless of being a bule or not.

[1] Bule: (read: boo-lay) In Bahasa means a white or Caucasian foreigner.