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31      Infidelity

  Some people stray, some stay.

You Love Me, You Love Me NotIt is not a surprise that all of us must have, one point in life, been in love before. The excitement to see the person, the heartbeat each time you think of the person, the thought of yet another meeting. You cannot get enough of the person. But, of course, being in love when you are single differs from when you are attached to someone else. That is when the problem arises.

Yes, we are talking about infidelity. It does not happen to everyone but it happens. Infidelity is one of the most heartbreaking experiences a couple can undergo. It is painful, humiliating and a feeling of being crushed. For both parties, not just the betrayed one.

It makes you think why people still perpetrate infidelity. It can be for many reasons — ranging from a lack of attention from the partner, an excitement of an affair, an unsatisfied private life, a need for an ego boost and so on.

Infidelity can happen to a bad or good relationship. To a bad relationship, it makes a whole of sense for a couple to stray. Meanwhile, you might ask why it could happen to a good relationship. Although men and women stray for different reasons, they commit affairs under similar circumstances. The feeling of being desired for.

The forms of infidelity can vary from one-night-stands to long-term affairs. Some people find a fling as an experiment. The same reason why some people do not want to be committed to a marriage or relationship for the fear of being unable to try new things with different people. That is when an open marriage concept surfaces. At the same time, some people commit affairs that last for a long time, when the feelings involve and get deeper. That is when an affair is most likely to be discovered.

Although there is another situation where a relationship is not yet developed. What if infidelity occurs while dating. In other words, an affair that happens when there is no marriage involved. An affair while seeing someone else. Can it still be classified as infidelity? Basically if the couple does not see each other exclusively, it is not a crime to date someone else. It is what we call expanding one’s horizon, opening the options. It cannot be a major issue because there is no commitment involved. However, an affair — whether in a commited relationship or dating — causes serious pain. Infidelity is as devastating in a dating situation as in a relationship.

In order to end the misery, the persons involved should think it over what they look in an affair, a relationship and beyond. Do they have an affair because they want to discover something new? Is it because they are unsatisfied with their partner? Is there a way to save the commitment?

It is human to enjoy the feeling of being liked, adored and desired for. However, when it involves feelings of another person in a partnership, it is unfair to cheat on the person. Nobody likes to be cheated on. This insane world that we are living in, there are people who still stray no matter what the situation is. One thing that is important to keep in mind, infidelity is never a good news. By the end of the day, we want to live a clean, guilt-free life, don’t we all? Hey, like they say, what comes around goes around.

“Said you needed both of us
How could you be so unkind
Then you traded love for lust”

—Elton John